I recently had a conversations with a female coworker who expressed her disapproval of mother’s trying to have it all. As a mother herself, she has made the personal decision to work part-time in order to be home with her toddler children. As I glanced around the room I could see the looks of disapproval from the other women in the room…needless to say…we had a very intense discussion about working mothers.
What I have come to understand is that you can have it all, just not all at the very same time. It’s truly about seeking balance and prioritizing things that you deem important. I don’t think any woman (as noble as it sounds) should completely give up or put her dreams on hold to be the seemly perfect mom. As a mother to girls I want them to know that they are special and also have a gift that only they can give to the world.
So what can you do to gain some balance:
1. Seriously consider how you are using your time. Outsource task that are time consuming and mundane. I would normally spend hours during the weekend washing and folding clothes. Occasionally I outsource that to the local Spin N Wash so that we can enjoy clean clothes and more importantly use that time to do something fun!
2. Boundaries, Boundaries, Boundaries! You may have to say NO (Practice and repeat the word NO! ten times….liberating I tell you) Say no thank you.. to the invite to do anything that doesn’t make your heart sing..
3. Communicate… tell your hubby or kids that you will work between the following hours and after that they are all yours! Make sure you stick to the agreed upon time!
4. Get up every day and try to do better! It truly takes time and practice so don’t give up!