INSTINCT: TRUST YOURS!

     I recently had the pleasure of watching the two part series of OWN’s Life Class with T.D. Jakes entitled “Transformational Thinking”.  Let me tell you it was truly transformational.  His lecture was the motivation for this posting.  If you have not watched it…YOU MUST MAKE IT A MUST…….

     With that being said…………………………………………..The wonderful creator has already equipped you and I with the things we need to live out our purpose.  How many of you have had your gut tell you something doesn’t feel right or this is a good idea? Why didn’t you listen to your gut?  Like me the answer is: YOU (your fears and/or intellect) got in the way! 

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     Many of us think our instinct are our ability to trust ourselves.  Thankfully…let me take the pressure off of you..Instinct or your “gut feeling” is the spirit communicating with you on a personal level. Although you may not trust YOURSELF, Trust that the creator WILL NOT steer you wrong (Now that’s GREAT news!).

     I remember my grandmother telling us as young adults “that you are too smart for your own good”.  I didn’t quite understand at that the time how profound that was.  Many of us attempt to rely on our intellect when making decisions.  The unfortunate part is that you don’t know what you don’t know… So take the pressure off of YOU to get it right and simply TRUST YOUR INSTINCT!

 Peace & Blessings…

Getting out of a slump!

Lifting yourself out of a slump!

Get out of the slump 

What happens when you become disgruntle about life in general? Where nothing seems to be going right or left for that matter. Don’t get me wrong, I’m normally a very upbeat, glass is half way full type gal.  But recently I’ve become overwhelmed with life not going quite the way I want it to (I know..join the crowd and bring out the violins).  You know the saying “when it rains it pours” well right now I feel like I’m floating during a Tsunami (you know I’m a tidbit dramaticJ).  So now that I’ve vented and allowed myself a 10 minute pity party..it’s time to turn this frustration into something more productive. 

So how do I get myself out of a slump?

  1. Acknowledge & recognize that you’re in a TEMPORARY slump.
  2. For quick pick me up!  You have to develop a “pick me up” music playlist.  I have downloaded several songs that make me extremely happy….(Can you say, Pharrell.. Happy).
  3. Find some inspiration!  Do you enjoy looking at recipes? Or looking at homes (you probably can’t afford-Now.(remember no judging)
  4. Find a positive distraction.  Maybe thumb through a gossip magazine, read excerpts from a trashy romance novel or go outside and take a much needed walk.

Once you’ve cleared your head and can now think more rationally.

1. Write down what trigger these feelings and emotions.  i.e. argument with your husband or received a bill unexpectedly—

2. Next write down what you can do to make the issue a little more manageable.  i.e. talk to your husband calmly (was it really worth all the trouble) or determine if you can make payment arrangements on the bill.

3.  After a few days… determine if you could have done anything differently to avoid this in the future.

 

NOW get to the business (YOUR BUSINESS) of being happy!!!!

Living the Good Life!!

                Many of you, including myself, go through life without experiencing life. What does that mean? Do you every wonder if there is more to life than working, bills, car-pools and to-do list?  You are not alone….We get so caught in the mundane activities of the day that many of us have forgotten that we were placed on this earth for a purpose.  I know.. You have obligations, bills and responsibilities…..Most of us if not all of us do….That’s ALL code for: I DON”T KNOW WHAT TO DO OR HOW TO DO IT!!!!  and that the majority of us. We become paralyzed by the fear of the unknown. 

                How many of you have been or currently at a job or in a relationship that you know is no longer serving a beneficial purpose in your life?  I see you shaking your head J.. the BIGGER question is why haven’t you taken any steps towards changing those situations?

 FEAR… that small four letter word that tends to take over most of our lives……

                I know you saying..who wants to live in fear..life happens!  WELL here’s the REALITY..it requires that you are aware of your feelings and thoughts ALL the time in order to combat those feelings of fear.

                 To get you started, consider (even make a list) of your fears. For example,: not having enough money, being alone, not being smart enough, or even fear of becoming sick maybe  STOPPING  you from living a fully present life. 

Good Life

 

 

 

So how do you get started?

1. Recognize your fears (they do exist)

2. Try to understand why this is a fear for you.  What has contributed to the fear?

3.  Evaluate how these fears may have prevented you from being the best YOU, You can be!

4. Work daily to release the fears and self-sabotaging doubt from your daily life.

Today! Start working towards Living the Good Life!!!

A dose of gratitude goes a long way….

     My best friend Maisha had the opportunity of lifetime to go to Africa on a missionary trip (interview and pics coming very soon!).  On her trip her primary focus was to lend a hand at a local orphanage.  In her daily text messages she expresses how blown away she is at the level of gratitude the children there have the smallest things like a hug and/or a blow pop. Maybe we have become so spoiled and desensitized to how truly fortunate and blessed most of us are.  On our worst days we have a lot more than many…  

Thank you

     I know sometimes it’s hard not to concentrate on what’s not going well in our lives.  But the saying is true “What you give your attention to will manifest itself greatly”.  So why spend endless amounts of time and energy on such negative things.  Worrying never changed anything..focused actions are the only thing that will change our circumstances. 

     Exercise: Try keep a gratitude journal-every night for 40 nights. Daily write down two things you are grateful for during the course of that day. Your days will become BRIGHTER!!

 

Find your inner athlete!

Wishing you had the willpower and motivation of an athlete?    

Here are 5 simple ways to “trick” your body into moving more:

  1. Purchase & Wear an activity monitoring device– Most of us (even the laziest of us) are very visual people.  Having a visual reminder of how much OR little activity we are actually engaging in can be hugely motivational.  I personally wear Weight Watchers ActiveLink (http://www.weightwatchers.com/templates/Marketing/Marketing_Utool_1col.aspx?pageid=1395241)-and it’s something hugely motivational to see all those dancing lights at the end of the day, that symbolizes I met or exceeded my activity points for the day.  Oh those occasion where I’m having a rough day—I will march around the house until I get my activity points up.
  2. Find a buddy who is MORE athletic then you! Consider this person as your work-out mentor.  It goes back to a saying I heard somewhere: “never ask a broke person how to become rich” obviously they haven’t figured that out yet.  We choose people who are like us so that we feel comfortable with the process.  The opposite should apply—find someone who will push you and has seen some success.
  3. Park farther from your destination—Trust me this small change can lead to measureable results.
  4. Set a goal and a reward for accomplishing your goal. For example, if you work out for 30 minutes for 10 days you will reward yourself with an hour massage.  (Important note: make sure the reward does not involve food or alcohol..I know..don’t shoot the messenger J)
  5. If you are a big TV watcher, commit to moving during every commercial break.  Make sure you’re NOT moving towards the kitchen to get snacks..

Good Luck and Get Moving…..

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